Hey Girl Valentine 2016


This is my favorite post of the year. Every Valentine’s Day I ask a group of women to write a love letter to themselves. As women we spend a lot of time discussing what we want to change about ourselves and not nearly enough time celebrating our strengths. My hope is that when you read this you see a little bit of yourself in one or more of these letters and are inspired to write your own or use it as an opportunity to express some love to a woman in your life. A giant thank you to all of the fantastic women who submitted, writing this is not an easy task. Happy Valentine’s Day.


Hi you,

I want you to know I think you’re pretty special.

I know you’re hard on yourself and struggle with self confidence at times. You wonder where life is going to take you, but hey, you’re only human. Enjoy the ride.

I’m proud of the decisions you’ve made in life.  You have stayed true to yourself. Whether it’s a move across country, quitting your job, traveling far away by yourself or falling head over heels way too fast; you take risks.  I love that you follow your heart and your gut even if it means heartache sometimes. You wouldn’t be the wiser.   I love that you always look for the good in people. You’re loyal in every sense of the word, sometimes to a fault but hey that’s OK. You’re a good daughter and a good friend, just as they are to you.

You take life too seriously at times, but I love that you don’t take yourself too seriously.  You laugh hard, you sing terrible, your dance moves are pretty solid, and you have a great smile!

I will make sure to remind you of all these things and more. Keep smiling because you have a lot in life to smile about!

Love you!

Lisa is originally from Northern California and has been living in New York City for the last 14 years. Lisa works in international global hotel sales.  In her spare time she  loves be in the outdoors, loves to travel and spend time with friends and family.


Dear Me,
Your enthusiasm for life makes every day an adventure and I just adore how you 
nerd out on science and nature. The world is an amazing place and you help others 
explore their passions by being so unapologetic about your own.

You try things that scare you like rock climbing and really big job titles and I truly admire how you act with courage every single day. I think it’s fantastic how you pursue the things you enjoy and work really hard to make the world a better place.

Keep sharing your talents, your ambition, and your personality with the world.
You’re fantastic and I love you.

Kelly Conroy is a Sacramento based blogger and half of Timber + Main, a custom furniture design company she owns with her husband. Kelly is a stellar blogger, to-do list aficionado, and a reluctant power tool user. When she’s not blogging or sanding the latest Timber + Main creation, you can usually find her hiking through the forest, drooling over Sacramento’s farm to fork scene,  or exploring her neighborhood with her husband and trusty pit bull, Piper.


Love Letter To Myself

Sweet Pea,
Age has made you wiser
who would have believed that?
Not you.
And all those unkind words
the times on the sidelines
uninvited to the party
they didn’t kill you
and they didn’t make you stronger either
but when you pieced it back together
your heart had grown larger.

You spend your life amongst the
most poignant reminders of love’s hunger
and you feed them.
The timid creature hiding behind a curtain of hair,
the insecure prankster lighting fires with sarcasm,
those wobbly kneed with anxiety
because their desires
feel foreign, ill-fitting, dangerous.
You stand at the door daily
to say I see you.

I see the terror you can’t name,
I see your brilliance and your beauty,
I will believe in you
until you
in yourself.

This year, sweet pea,
say it to yourself.


Wendy Rasmussen is a former coffee and tea writer who now teaches high school. She is a firm believer in the transformative power of love.


You know you have that nickname for a reason, right? There’s something about the way you throw your head back in full, unrestricted laughter that is contagious. When you get excited about something, you speak very rapidly and out come the famous Muppet Hands. Those quirks are endearing. Don’t ever stifle that fire inside you.

As much as I can’t get enough of your energetic spirit, I’m also in love with your quiet, serious side. You value thoughtful, quality conversation and truly connecting with people beyond what is on the surface. Friends confide in you for good reason; you don’t judge, you listen intently and when asked for advice, you sincerely mean what you say– Even if it’s not the message they think they want to hear. You care about the bigger picture of their health & happiness, and looking like the jerk who told the truth is worth the sacrifice in order to help a friend gain a little more clarity & peace.

Warm generosity and unwavering kindness radiate out of you like freaking rays of sunshine. Seriously, you constantly look for opportunities to help others– Not because of any personal or business gain, but because you give a damn. I mean, you were one of the few females to shave your head for kids’ cancer research and rocked the hell out of that bald head all year. Ellen would be proud.

What I most love, though, is that you put yourself out there. You’ve built your business from the ground up and haven’t thrown in the towel when it’s gotten tough. And it’s gotten real tough. You talk it out, cry it out, and do what you need to do to make shit happen. It fills me with pride when people share how inspiring your drive is to them. Since we’re being honest here, I often wish that you would drop the need to achieve this vague idea of “perfect.” Your collection of missteps make you human and show how far you’ve come since day one. I’m proud of the important work you’ve been doing these last few months to focus on what matters the most to you. It sounds like this year is already shaping up to be a big one for multiple reasons, and I know you are overjoyed for this next phase of professional and personal growth.

Just remember a few things, mama: You are always enough. You’re doing a frickin’ great job. And you totally kill it in those red Power Trousers.

Shake it,

Ana Manzano is owner and creative director for the children’s clothing brand Ana Apple. Her team proudly creates “tricked-out threads. Crafted with a conscience” in Sacramento, CA. Because they believe in the strength of community, $1 per bib and $2 per garment from the Ana Apple collection sold online or in-store will is contributed to Big Brothers Big Sisters of Greater Sacramento.


Hey you,

Long time no talk. About that- let’s make more time for us this year. You work so hard to give joy to everyone around you and I want you to have more fun too.

You have really impressed me with your capacity for growth & love in the past few years. I am so relieved you went to therapy and got all the shit worked out that you needed to in order to be happy. High fives for getting your shit together!!

Keep surrounding yourself with people who bring out the best in you. That includes your inner self. If your inner self starts hating on you again- tell that bitch BYE FELICIA… we don’t have time or energy in our life for that nonsense anymore.

I’m proud of you for doing the hard stuff too. It sucks sometimes editing people out of our life but you’re adulting really well by not clinging to unhealthy relationships anymore.

Keep doing that even when it’s hard.

That’s what she said.

Also, keep acting like a 12 year old boy, I love that you’re absolutely ridiculous.

Here’s what you have my total permission to always have time for: your ridiculous laugh, game nights, traveling, dinner parties, impromptu singing at the top of your lungs & lots more ocean time. You deserve it- you work hard & you do good. Treat yo’self.

Keep growing, keep loving. You’re changing the world by making other people feel loved & valued.

Love you,

Rosaura is the owner and artist behind Pigment & Parchment. She is a proud cat lady, secret mermaid & sentimental Renaissance woman. Her life is devoted to seeing, creating, learning, & helping. She has been honing her illustration skills for over two decades in Northern California.


Hey Girl,
I know sometimes it seems like the only constant in your life is that it is always changing, but I love your ability to adapt. Just when I thought you would sit still for a while in LA you went and fell in love and changed cities again. You weren’t done there though you also got married, bought a house, and started a business. At times you also questioned your knowledge, abilities, and sanity. Thanks for not giving up on yourself.

I’m so proud of you for learning to shut down the fearful voice inside of your brain, choosing happiness, and surrounding yourself with people who refuse to let you become complacent. You have worked hard to get where you are but remember to take time for yourself too. Get outside of your home office, hide your phone, and spend time with people that make you laugh (you have a lot of these people).

I love your playful attitude that sometimes boarders on immature, don’t ever lose that because life is for enjoying. Also keep converting people to hugging, we need more love in the universe. Above all, remember most of adulting is pretending like you have it together, you are doing a GREAT job.

I know you thought you couldn’t exist anywhere outside of LA, but you are doing it and I have never seen you happier. Keep that shit up.

Maria is a Sacramento based social media consultant and lifestyle blogger. She believes in the power of collaboration, hugging, and saying yes to new experiences (especially if they scare you). Her love languages are donuts, coffee and craft beer. When she is not working or writing she can be usually be found exploring Sacramento with her husband.


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