Hey Girl, lets talk being a single gal. A few months ago I want from being “in a relationship” to frantically trying to figure out how to change my relationship status on Facebook without everyone in the universe knowing before I had time to process and tell people on my own terms (note to self: never use relationship feature on Facebook again) The ending of a relationship sucks, there are a lot of memories, sadness, confusion, and frustration all slammed together around one life event. Unwinding your life from someone is uncomfortable and a little scary, but you already know how I feel about fear.
Why is it that when you tell people you are no longer in a relationship their immediate reaction is “I’m Sorry” ? Can we stop doing that please? I mean if you are in a relationship that sucks I hope that you wouldn’t stay (that is sometimes known as settling, and you are way too good for that). I understand things can get ultra complicated when you thrown in shared housing, animals, marriage or kids but in the end happiness is a choice, we all deserve a shot at it and a chance to get there on our own path. So if you are friends with me and you tell me that you are single again I will say “I hope you are happy. Let’s go celebrate your new adventure with champagne”
Needless to say there has been a few champagne corks popped in the last few months celebrating new adventures, a new apartment, and a new path for happiness. On a random side note if anyone knows how I can make the champagne cork popping sound my text message alert I will give you the best high five of your lifetime. My friends and family continue to prove why I love and value them so much by joining me in celebrating new chapters. I am rediscovering the joys of being single, which a lot of times means being alone with my thoughts…and you know what? Being alone is kind of awesome. The list of awesomeness includes, but is not limited to:
Watching every television show Bravo airs (even Real Housewives of New Jersey) without anyone asking to change the channel, a brownie hot fudge sundae is considered an appropriate dinner, morning breath? who cares, drinking the whole bottle of wine…no one will know, sleeping in until 10am, clothing is always optional (just make sure the shades are drawn), and sleeping in what I like to call the “starfish” formation.
Friends, this is just the beginning too! What I am really loving is reconnecting and strengthening friendships, focusing on career and life goals, trying new hobbies (so much DIY decorating in my future) and helping spread some inspiration and happiness to the small part of the universe I interact with.
Like I said, we all deserve it however we get there (and however many relationships it takes). As a wise Pinterest pin once told me “Your Value Doesn’t Decrease Based on Someone’s Inability to See Your Worth” So shine girl, like super bright.